NEVER FORGET: You SUCK and you ALWAYS will!
Yeah, that’s right, I said it!
You suck, and you always will!
And so will I!
That is, to somebody in the world.
Actually, we’ll suck to hundreds, if not thousands, of people.
Why?, because we can’t please everybody.
Guess what? Nobody can.
You know, the one thing that gets me is when I don’t agree with someone who thinks a particular person( writer, film maker, actor, etc) is good, great, or as people love to throw the term around, a genius, and they look at me like I’m crazy.
“What?” they exclaim. “How can you not like his/her work?”
I shrug indifferently. “I just don’t. It doesn’t appeal to me.”
Now, I’m not saying the person’s work isn’t good. I mean somebody likes it, right? I just don’t like it, and there’s nothing wrong with that, or at least there shouldn’t be. There are those whose work I love, who I’m sure some of you might wrinkle your nose and ask “Really? You like them?”
What’s my point in all this? While trying to figure out this whole “writing thing”, both Novel and Screenwriting, and how it effect a writer’s life, something hit me.
I realized that for every writer, film maker, singer, musician, artist, dancer, or whomever you think is a genius, there’s somebody out there who thinks they suck!
So, what does that mean for me? What does that mean for you?
For me, it’s a reminder that even those hailed as greats in a field are still human. With all their talent and/or connections they still cannot please everyone. That realization opened my eyes to my own work in a way. Though I strive to become the greatest writer I can be, to master the tools of my craft, I will never be able to please everybody.
Some just will not get it.
This helped me to look at rejection and criticism in a different light. It forced me to really look at WHY someone doesn’t like my work. Does their rejection, criticism, or lack of interest have merit? Is it their personal or professional opinion? Could the story just not be for them? Or could the story just really suck?
I take criticism well, I think, ha HA!. I line it up, analyze it, and absorb it. I really try to see what someone’s trying to point out, to see if it makes sense to me. After all, if it doesn’t make sense, or I can’t understand it, how can I act on it?
As they say, everybody’s a critic, true, but not everybody’s a good one. If I’m able to see and understand the critique, great, let me see what I can do to fix that. Let me see what I can do to become stronger in that area.
Sometimes though, a critique can be more opinion than fact. Sometimes, people can knock you for things that they personally don’t like, that doesn’t mean your work is not good, it just means THAT publisher or producer doesn’t like it, but guess what? They’re not the only publisher or producer out there. There’s a whole world out there. Why base the outlook of your own work on a handful of people?
Plenty of now famous and acclaimed authors and film makers met rejection hundreds of times before reaching their goal. Now, either they grew stronger in their craft, finally got their work to the right person, or both. Regardless, there are two things that will always be certain about any and everything you do. From dancing to cooking to singing to painting, to writing: Somebody’s going to hate it, and somebody’s going to love it.
Millions of people HATE Star Wars because they think Star Trek is worlds better. Some can go on for days about how they detest the love-sick, glittery-skinned vampires of TWILIGHT, but love Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Blade, or Anne Rice’s Lestat.
So, who do you focus on through all this madness? No one, I say.
Well, in a sense.
I believe ones focus should be on perfecting skills, mastering the craft, telling stories, and sharing them with the world. You already know some will like your work, it’s a given, just as some will hate it. For me, the real goal is to be the best writer I can be to effectively tell my stories the best way possible. That in itself, your product, will get you published or produced, or guess what? You can go the Indie route and do it yourself if you don’t feel like waiting for someone else to tell you you’re good enough.
In trying to achieve any goal we will always face obstacles, rejection, and negativity. The only way to overcome these things is to absorb them, analyze them, consider them, accept or dispel them, and take action. But even after we take action, grow stronger, and conquer that hurdle, just remember:
WE STILL SUCK to somebody out there, and we always will, lol!
Are we going to let that stop us? No. Not at all!
Anyone care to share their outlook on things?
How do you view/deal with the mountains of rejection and criticism thrown your way?